{"id":5696,"date":"2026-05-10T05:21:00","date_gmt":"2026-05-10T09:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/?p=5696"},"modified":"2026-05-10T05:21:00","modified_gmt":"2026-05-10T09:21:00","slug":"where-are-you-hiding-in-your-leadership","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/2026\/05\/10\/where-are-you-hiding-in-your-leadership\/","title":{"rendered":"Where are you hiding in your leadership?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We all have a default setting. When the pressure dials up at work, we unconsciously retreat into the tasks that feel safe. The visionary strategist ignores the operational messy work; the relentless executor ignores team morale; the empathetic people-pleaser avoids hard business metrics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We usually dress this up as &#8220;playing to our strengths.&#8221; But if we are being honest, it is often just a sophisticated way of neglecting the parts of our role that make us uncomfortable. The friction, exhaustion, or stagnation you might be feeling right now isn\u2019t a sign that you are failing, it\u2019s a signal that a critical dimension of your work is being starved of your attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Source<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More than a decade ago, I was working with a team that was hitting a wall. They were talented, but they were deeply misaligned on where their energy should be going. To help them map out their blind spots, I built a tool to force reflection on the neglected aspects of their roles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over the years, I\u2019ve refined this framework through individual coaching and team sessions. It works just as well for Individual Contributors as it does for Managers. I call it the <strong>Emerging Leadership Navigator<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As you can see in the profile map below, it breaks your role down into four distinct compass points:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Business:<\/strong> The strategy, the market, and the value you are delivering.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>People:<\/strong> The relationships, the culture, and the emotional intelligence required to lead.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Execution:<\/strong> The delivery, the grind, and getting things across the finish line.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>System:<\/strong> The processes, the structures, and how things scale.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?ssl=1\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"895\" height=\"1024\" data-attachment-id=\"5698\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/2026\/05\/10\/where-are-you-hiding-in-your-leadership\/screenshot-from-2026-05-10-10-46-06\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?fit=941%2C1077&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"941,1077\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Screenshot From 2026-05-10 10-46-06\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?fit=895%2C1024&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?resize=895%2C1024&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5698\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?resize=895%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 895w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?resize=262%2C300&amp;ssl=1 262w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?resize=768%2C879&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2026\/05\/Screenshot-From-2026-05-10-10-46-06.png?w=941&amp;ssl=1 941w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 895px) 100vw, 895px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Reframe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you look at a radar chart like the one above, the instinct is to judge the gaps between where you <em>are<\/em> (Self-Perception) and what the role <em>requires<\/em> (Importance).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But let\u2019s reframe that gap. That negative space isn&#8217;t a character flaw or a permanent weakness. It is pure signal. If you are feeling overwhelmed, the gap is showing you exactly where the bottleneck is. The anxiety of feeling &#8220;behind&#8221; is simply the emotional signal that you have outgrown your current default setting and it&#8217;s time to intentionally step into a new quadrant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Leadership Application<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Leadership does not emerge by being perfect at all four dimensions simultaneously. That\u2019s a recipe for burnout. Leadership emerges when you create the conditions for awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you map your role using the Navigator, you suddenly make the invisible visible. You might realize that as an IC, you&#8217;ve been over-indexing on <em>Execution<\/em> while entirely neglecting the <em>System<\/em> that could make your life easier. Or as a manager, you might realize you are focusing so heavily on the <em>Business<\/em> that the <em>People<\/em> dimension is eroding. Recognizing this misalignment is the first step to correcting it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I recently decided to make this tool accessible to everyone by creating a simplified online version. You can read more about the philosophy behind it <a href=\"https:\/\/pearlside.fr\/emerging-leadership\">\u200bhere\u200b<\/a>, and you can start your inquiry right here: <a href=\"https:\/\/navigator.pearlside.fr\/\">\u200b<strong>The Emerging Leadership Navigator<\/strong>\u200b<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Note: I would love to hear your feedback on the tool itself, or simply hear how it made you reflect on your role differently. Hit reply and let me know.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A Practical Takeaway<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>TL;DR:<\/strong> You can&#8217;t navigate out of a rut if you don&#8217;t know where you are on the map. <strong>Mantra:<\/strong> &#8220;The friction I feel is the exact dimension of leadership I am avoiding.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Coaching Prompt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Before you click into the tool, ask yourself (or your team) these three questions this week:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Of the four dimensions (Business, People, Execution, System), which one do I naturally retreat to when I am stressed?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Which dimension am I currently avoiding because it makes me feel incompetent or uncomfortable?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If I shifted just 10% of my energy this week into my most neglected dimension, what specific problem would it solve?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all have a default setting. 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