{"id":2782,"date":"2019-03-18T09:04:24","date_gmt":"2019-03-18T13:04:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/?p=2782"},"modified":"2020-09-29T05:05:29","modified_gmt":"2020-09-29T09:05:29","slug":"i-still-have-feedback","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/2019\/03\/18\/i-still-have-feedback\/","title":{"rendered":"I still have feedback"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I continued to think about feedback and had multiple discussions triggered by the article from the Harvard Business Review: The Feedback Fallacy and my post about it. Thank you, for all those discussions, they are precious.<\/p>\n<p>In addition to <a href=\"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/blog\/2019\/03\/10\/i-have-some-feedback\/\">last week post<\/a> that you can find below, I would like to add that, yes you can provide improvement feedback. There is, at least, one condition. The person needs to know how to handle negative feedback.<\/p>\n<p>If I can take all feedback as &#8220;inputs,&#8221; whether they are positive or negative, thank the person that gave me the feedback. And then, create a space in which I can digest the feedback, acknowledge the emotions associated with that feedback, think about it. Then, I can probably act appropriately.<\/p>\n<p>I feel that it is easier when you have an existing relationship, and you trust the person.<\/p>\n<p>When I receive feedback from people I don&#8217;t trust, or that I think manipulative and insincere, it is harder not to react, it is harder to create the space needed to acknowledge emotions, and to think about what is going on.<\/p>\n<p>What are your thoughts about this?<\/p>\n<p>As usual, comments, email, Linkedin, Twitter, or even phone, your preferred means of communication is perfect for me.<\/p>\n<p>Featured image is by<span class=\"photographer-profile\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/gratisography.com\/photo\/author\/ryan-mcguire\/\" rel=\"author\" title=\"Posts by Ryan McGuire\">Ryan McGuire<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I continued to think about feedback and had multiple discussions triggered by the article from the Harvard Business Review: The Feedback Fallacy and my post about it. Thank you, for all those discussions, they are precious. In addition to last week post that you can find below, I would like to add that, yes you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2786,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2782","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-all"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2019\/03\/gratisography-210H-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paNjQG-IS","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3187,"url":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/2020\/01\/20\/how-not-to-provide-feedback-john-poelstra\/","url_meta":{"origin":2782,"position":0},"title":"How (Not) to Give Feedback: Responsibility, Ego, and Relationships","author":"Alexis","date":"January 20, 2020","format":false,"excerpt":"In this episode of Le Podcast, I had the great pleasure of having John Poelstra to discuss a very personal experience about providing feedback.","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Le Podcast&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Le Podcast","link":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/category\/podcast\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2020\/01\/Le-Podcast-Square-Feedback.png?fit=400%2C400&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":2502,"url":"https:\/\/blog-alexis.monville.com\/en\/2018\/01\/20\/care-personally\/","url_meta":{"origin":2782,"position":1},"title":"Care Personally","author":"Alexis","date":"January 20, 2018","format":false,"excerpt":"Care personally and challenge directly. 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