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Care personally and challenge directly. That is how Kim Scott<\/a> defines Radical Candor<\/a>. At the end of November, I decided that I will offer her book to some of my colleagues<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A book is an opportunity for learning through discussions with others. I already discussed the advantage of a book discussion club<\/a>, and by offering a book, I wish to have those conversations, with each person. And yes, I am also planning a book discussion club.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you give a book, some conversation could start surprisingly fast, like last year when I gave “Joy<\/a>” to colleagues, and one of them told me immediately: “Is there a message? Do you think I make my employees unhappy?”. This conversation took me by surprise and I probably just mumbled meaningless words to try to escape it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it seems that the conversation will never start. So either, you can forget about it, or you can push to have it. Sometimes it is just that people don’t read, don’t read business books, have other things on their reading list, and that’s ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With Radical Candor<\/a>, I had the first conversations quite rapidly. The first one was about the 2 x 2 matrix used in the book. You are up on the vertical ax of the matrix when you care personally. You are on the right of the horizontal ax of the matrix when you challenge directly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The conversation evolved around the principles described by Dale Carnegie<\/a> and how they fit the matrix. (in “How to win friends and influence people<\/a>,” his book first published in 1936, and still reedited today.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I will take two examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n