Category: I am in Charge

  • What Motivates You?

    What Motivates You?

    👋 Hey there, Software Engineers and Team Leaders!
    Ever wondered what truly motivates you or your team members? Understanding motivation is key to increasing your impact and satisfaction at work. That’s why I want to introduce you to a game-changing practice from my latest book, “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge,” co-authored with Michael Doyle.
    🎯 Introducing: Moving Motivators

    🤔 What Is It?
    Moving Motivators is a simple yet powerful exercise that uses a deck of 10 cards. Each card represents an intrinsic motivation like Curiosity, Acceptance, Power, and so on. The aim? To uncover what drives you and your teammates. The practice comes from Management 3.0 and Jurgen Appelo‘s book Management Workout!

    🌟 Why Use It?
    This practice is a lens to view the world through different perspectives. What’s crucial for you might be trivial for someone else. The beauty lies in understanding that there’s no universal “good” or “bad”—just different motivators for different people.

    👣 How to Get Started
    1️⃣ Download and print the cards from the Management 3.0 website.
    2️⃣ Sort the cards based on what motivates you the most.
    3️⃣ Consider a life change and see how it affects your motivators.
    4️⃣ Bonus: Play this game with your team and discover what drives them.


    🔄 Why It Matters

    Understanding motivation is not just a personal journey; it’s a team journey. When you know what drives each team member, you can work together more effectively and navigate changes with ease.

    📚 Want to dive deeper? This practice is just one of the 18 we cover in our book.
    Check it out at I am in Charge.

    👇 Let me know what you think and if you’ve ever tried something similar to understand motivation!

  • Unlock the Power of Nonviolent Communication

    Unlock the Power of Nonviolent Communication

    In a world where misunderstandings can escalate quickly, mastering the art of Nonviolent Communication can be a game-changer. Created by Marshall Rosenberg, this practice is all about fostering compassion, empathy, and genuine understanding in our interactions.

    How it works:

    1. Observation: Reflect on what happened without judgment.
    2. Feelings: Express genuine emotions or sensations.
    3. Needs: Identify the underlying needs or values causing those feelings.
    4. Requests: Make a constructive request to improve the relationship.

    For instance, instead of reacting aggressively in a heated meeting, imagine saying:
    “When I hear comments about a team’s work without their representation, I feel anger because I value respect and fairness. Would you consider inviting them for a more inclusive discussion?”

    By practicing Nonviolent Communication, we can nurture our relationships and create a more harmonious environment.

    Curious about other transformative practices? Dive into our book, “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge“. Join Sandrine on her journey, explore actionable experiments, and redefine what it means to be in charge.

    Check out the experiment!

  • A Journey of Transformation Begins with a Single Step (or Experiment!)

    A Journey of Transformation Begins with a Single Step (or Experiment!)

    🚀 A Journey of Transformation Begins with a Single Step (or Experiment!) 🚀

    Over the past few weeks, I’ve shared three powerful experiments from our book “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge”:

    1. Be Impeccable with Your Words
    2. The Positivity List
    3. The Five Minute Journal

    These experiments are designed to empower, inspire, and transform how you approach challenges and opportunities in your professional journey. And guess what? They’re just the tip of the iceberg!

    🎁 Special Offer: For those curious about the context and insights surrounding these experiments, I’m thrilled to offer the first chapter of our book for FREE. Dive deeper, explore the narrative, and set the stage for a transformative journey.

    👉 Get your exclusive chapter here

    Whether you’re a software engineer or someone looking to elevate their professional game, this chapter is a must-read. And as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and feedback!

  • Discover the Power of the Five Minute Journal!

    Discover the Power of the Five Minute Journal!

    In our fast-paced world, taking a few moments to reflect can make a world of difference. Introducing the Five Minute Journal, a transformative practice that can elevate your daily life.

    Why it’s a game-changer:
    🌟 Increases happiness
    🌟 Strengthens relationships
    🌟 Boosts optimism

    How it works:
    🌞 Morning Routine:

    1. List three things you’re grateful for.
    2. Envision three things that would make today great.
    3. Affirm who you are.

    🌜 Night Routine:

    1. Reflect on three amazing things from the day.
    2. Contemplate one thing that could’ve made the day even better.

    This practice isn’t just about journaling—it’s about cultivating a mindset of gratitude and growth.

    And if you’re curious about other transformative practices, dive into our book, “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge“. Join Sandrine on her journey, explore actionable experiments, and redefine what it means to be in charge.

    Check out the practice now: The Five Minute Journal

  • Introducing the Positivity List!

    Introducing the Positivity List!

    Ever found yourself trapped in a loop of negative thoughts, especially under pressure? We’ve got a simple yet powerful solution for you: The Positivity List. 📝

    What’s it about?
    It’s an index card (physical or virtual) where you jot down 8 topics that bring you joy. It could be memories, upcoming events, or even imaginative scenarios.

    Why it’s a game-changer?
    Research shows that thinking of pleasurable events requires effort. But with this list, you can easily shift your mindset. Just 6 minutes with your Positivity List can uplift your spirits, making challenges more manageable.

    How to use it?
    Create your list with 8 joyous topics.
    Set reminders for the next 5 days at different times.
    Spend 6 minutes with your list during each reminder.
    Reflect on the impact it has on your mood and mindset.

    Whether using it as a daily relaxation tool or a beacon during tough times, the Positivity List is your pocket-sized dose of positivity. 🌈

    For more such practices, dive into our book “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge“.

  • Practice Nonviolent Communication

    Practice Nonviolent Communication

    What is it?

    Marshall Rosenberg created Nonviolent Communication to help improve the quality of our relationships by transforming existing patterns of defensiveness and aggressiveness into compassion and empathy.

    The Nonviolent Communication model has four components and two parts.

    The four components are:

    • Observation
    • Feeling
    • Needs
    • Request

    The two parts are:

    • Empathy
    • Honesty

    The outline of the model goes like this:

    When I see that______________

    I feel ______________

    because my need for ________________ is/is not met.

    Would you be willing to __________________?

    Why use it?

    The model supports your introspection and reflection of what is going on in the world around you. By practising Nonviolent Communication, you are more able to nurture the relationships with people around you.

    Steps

    Remember a time and place where the conversation became really heated. For Alexis It was one reaction in a meeting, something he said, he did not necessarily know why, but he could see on the faces of other people that it was not helping. We will use this as an example for the different steps.

    Observation

    • Take a step back and observe what happened,
    • When I see (hear…)
    • Alexis: When I hear you speaking about the complexity of the work of a team that has no representative in the room, a team I was a member of before…

    Feelings

    • Now express how you feel, it can be an emotion or a sensation rather than a thought that is in relation to what you observe.
    • … I feel…
    • Alexis: … I felt a rush of anger…

    Needs

    • Now express what you need or value that cause your feelings.
    • … Because I need…
    • Alexis: … Because I need people to be respected, I need their work to be respected, I need fairness and equity…

    Requests

    • Now you can formulate a request that would improve the relationship, without demanding, a concrete action that you would like to be taken.
    • … Would you be willing to… ?
    • Alexis: … Would you be willing to invite representatives of that team so they can bring their own perspective on those issues so that we can all learn and improve?

    You can expect that you won’t get it right the first time, and that you’ll need more than one iteration to make it good. Good being, an observation that is really an observation, a feeling that is really a feeling, and so on…

    Working on this with a trusted peer could really help.

    Further Information

  • The Five Minute Journal

    The Five Minute Journal

    What is it?

    The Five Minute Journal is a journal created by Alex Ikonn and UJ Ramdas. The book is a best seller with more than 500,000 copies sold. The book gives a format for you to create a gratitude journal.

    Why use it?

    Sticking to the practice and creating the habit of continuing it over time has proven to increase happiness, improve relationships, and foster optimism. The practice is not the only journaling practice. Benjamin Franklin proposed a journaling practice associated with his book of virtues, for example.

    Steps

    The practice is arranged in two parts, the morning routine, and the night routine.

    Morning Routine, just after waking up, answer these three questions:

    • I am grateful for. List three things that you are grateful for.
    • What would make today great? List three things that would make today great.
    • Daily affirmation, I am. Express who you are. An example could be: “I am clear and focused on my goals.”

    Night Routine, just before going to bed, evaluate your day with these two questions:

    • Three amazing things that happened today. List the three amazing things that happened today. The idea is to focus on the positive, as we have a natural tendency to do exactly the opposite.
    • How could I have made today even better? Express the one thing you could have done to make the day better. This part is for reflection and growth.

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  • Practice Spotlight: Be Impeccable with Your Words

    Practice Spotlight: Be Impeccable with Your Words

    Ever noticed how your words can shape your actions and influence others? 🤔 In our book, “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge”, we delve into this concept with our first practice: Be Impeccable with Your Words.

    This practice is all about harnessing the power of your words to drive truth and love. It’s not about making drastic changes overnight, but investing a deliberate amount of energy to gradually shift the way you express yourself. 🗣️

    We’ve even included a 5-day challenge to help you get started! Each day, you’ll choose a part of your day to be conscious of your words, reflect on your progress, and plan for the next day. 📅

    Why not give it a try? You might be surprised at how much of a difference it can make. And remember, rewiring the brain takes repetition, so focus on changing one automatic reaction at a time. 💡

    Here it is: Be Impeccable with Your Words!

    For more practices like this, check out our book.

    Let’s take charge of our words and actions together! 🚀

  • The Positivity List

    The Positivity List

    What is it?

    The Positivity List is an index card on which you write down 8 topics you enjoy thinking about. The index card can be made of paper that you can keep near you or virtual notes stored on your phone or computer.

    Why use it?

    Research on positive thinking demonstrated that thinking of pleasurable events requires effort, and that with a simple aid, you are able to do the task more easily. When you are under pressure, you tend to focus on the worst case scenario and consume all your energy in an infinite loop of negative thoughts. By using the positivity list for 6 minutes, you up-lift your mind, making it easier to deal with the challenge in front of you.

    Steps

    Select your index card. Make it convenient and easy to access for when you need it.

    Write down 8 topics you enjoy thinking about. Those topics could be:

    • Past events like a birthday party, a wedding,
    • People like a family member, a friend,
    • Upcoming events like the upcoming summer, your next vacation,
    • Even more detailed scenarios that could be totally made up.

    Set a reminder on your calendar for each of the next 5 days at a different time for each day.

    • Setting at different time for each day will give you different data points on how the positivity list affects your mindset.

    Each time the reminder pops-up, pull out your positivity list, and think about the topics for 6 minutes.

    • You can choose to focus on only one of the topics, or review several of them,
    • Sometimes it is easy to bring back one topic from memory and relive the joy of the moment, sometimes it is a bit harder, and zapping to the next topic gives another chance of bringing memories to the present.

    At the end of the 5 days, reflect on what effect the practice had on you and your behavior.

    • How did you feel during the experiment?
    • What challenges did you face?
    • What did you have to do or believe to be successful?
    • What positives can you take away from the experiment?
    • How can you apply what you learned from this experiment in your life or the workplace?

    Some people find that it’s helpful to pull out their Positivity List in times of troubles, others use theirs as a way to relax at least once a day. How will you use yours?

    Further Information

  • A Meeting Across Continents

    The Story Behind “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge”

    In the heart of Paris, a city known for its rich history and culture, we, Alexis Monville and Michael Doyle, finally met in person after months of remote collaboration. The occasion? The launch of our book, “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge”.

    Our journey to this point was not a typical one. When we embarked on this project, we were separated by oceans, with Alexis in Boston, Massachusetts, and Michael in Brisbane, Australia. Despite the geographical distance, we found a way to work together, synchronizing our schedules and doing most of the work asynchronously. The result of our collaboration is a book that aims to empower software engineers and increase their impact and satisfaction at work.

    We had originally planned to meet in Paris and organize events for the book’s launch. However, the pandemic had other plans, and Michael had to postpone his travel with his family. But as they say, good things come to those who wait. Our long-awaited meeting finally took place in June, with us signing copies of our book in the city of lights.

    In a previous crossed interview, we shared our hopes for the book and its readers. We hope that readers will increase their impact and satisfaction at work and realize their power in shaping the future of software engineering.

    Stay tuned for more updates and insights from us as we continue our journey with “I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge”.

  • Be Impeccable with Your Words

    Be Impeccable with Your Words

    What is it?

    Be Impeccable with Your Words is a practice to uncover the power of your words on yourself and others.

    Why use it?

    Changing the way you speak or the way you think is not difficult but you need to invest a deliberate amount of energy to make it happen. Once you catch yourself with one of your automatic reactions, you can choose to change the way you express yourself. Be Impeccable with Your Words is one of the Toltec Agreements crafted by Don Miguel Ruiz: “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”

    Steps

    Create a calendar for the next five days with two checkboxes for each day, one for the morning, one for the evening. Once you complete a session, check the box. Display the calendar where it is visible to you, Alexis keeps his on his desk; Michael prefers to have it next to his bed. You may also want to set reminders on your phone so that you really don’t forget about the activity.

    Morning:

    • Choose an event or part of the day when you are going to be conscious of being impeccable with your words. It could be during a meeting, a casual conversation, or choosing to react differently when someone starts venting or gossiping.
    • Tick the box on your calendar.

    Evening:

    • Reflect on the day and make a note on:
    • How well you felt you did (this could be on a 1 to 5 scale or use green, yellow, red).
    • What you could do differently tomorrow.
    • Tick the box on your calendar.

    At the end of the fifth day:

    • Look back at your notes on the past five days and evaluate your ratings.
    • What do you notice?
    • What conversations are more difficult than others?
    • What will you try next? The same experiment again, or a different experiment?

    Remember, rewiring the brain takes repetition, so it’s better to focus on changing one automatic reaction at a time.

    Further Information

  • Aesop’s Fables in an enterprise setting

    Ranjith Reddy Varakantam, Principal Agile Coach, wrote what we thought was a pretty epic review of I am a Software Engineer and I am in Charge on amazon.in and goodreads.com.

    He called it “a lean book” that “conveys new learnings with every chapter.” Ultimately describing it as “Aesop’s Fables in an enterprise setting.”

    His words piqued our interest so we reached out to Ranjith to learn more about what he’s up to and how the book helped him. Here’s what he had to say.

    As a Principle Agile Coach, one of my responsibilities is to ensure that the Developer Group, which consists of around 28 teams, is continuously working on small improvements.

    One high priority project that we are working on right now is to create a 100% automated workflow that will allow Operator based Containers to be released with zero manual intervention. This will only succeed if we can get multiple groups to work together to deliver the tooling and functionality.

    This is quite challenging as it is a complex project that needs people to solve not just hard technical issues but also cultural ones. The interdependencies between multiple teams and the competing priorities raises the table stakes.

    Working with this many people and priorities can at times make me feel that some people are “difficult” and don’t seem to be contributing how I’d like them to be. I was feeling this frustration when I picked up the book. Skimming through the first chapter, to my surprise found the main character was in exactly the same position!

    “I’ve done my best,” she says. “Maybe this isn’t the job for me. Maybe I should be in a different company. I just wish everyone around me would do more, be better somehow.” These were exactly the same thoughts going through my head. I became riveted to the book. I wanted to find out more.

    By the end of the first chapter, the main character realized her folly by talking things through with her wise colleague. The colleague shows her that instead of ‘venting’, she would make more progress if she spent her time ‘inquiring’. 

    That changed my state of mind and I started to think about what I could do to ensure that gaps were filled and make things crystal clear for people to improve their efficiency. 

    As I continued to read chapter after chapter, I realized that the challenges that I face or the thoughts that go through my head are common in organizations. The people are not so different from each other and mostly it’s the same kind of situations that we all find ourselves in. 

    By the end of the story, I realized that I needed to be more attentive and mindful. To be willing to view the situation from a different perspective. With a little bit of work on ourselves, we are actually capable of making a big difference.

    After reading this book, I’m now more interested in looking at the problem from various angles without prejudging people. Instead, I try to see what we can do to solve the problem or challenge at hand.

    I’ve also found this book to be a handy reference that I can revisit again and again as there are many things that can be picked up. The best part is that each chapter has a clear set of guidelines and additional reading that I can catch up on.

    This book has motivated me to look within myself for answers and realized that most often by working a bit on ourselves, we give birth to new powers and greater degrees of effectiveness.

    Thanks, Ranjith for sharing your story on how the book helped you.
    From time to time Ranjith publishes articles on Linkedin and Opensource.com. If you’d like to reach out to Ranjith, the best way is via his Linkedin profile.